Understanding

Daily writing prompt
What’s something most people don’t understand?

There’s a lot of things that people don’t seem to understand, but one of the first that pops into my brainbox is manners. Common courtesy. Respect.

It kind of blows my mind the amount of people that can’t even say a simple “thank you” anymore. Or how many people will let a door slam back in your face instead of holding it open. Or can’t give a decent freaking handshake.

Nothing like offering your hand as a sign of greeting and respect, only to be met with a cold, wet halibut in return, eh?

And maybe I’m a bit old fashioned, but would it kill some of the guys out there to rediscover the art of being a gentleman?

I mean, dude, seriously. Not only is your wife/girlfriend driving your sorry ass around, but then she has to get out of the car, go inside, pay for the gas, your Mountain Dew and rolling papers, but then she has to pump the gas while you sit in the car with your scrawny ass leg hanging out the window playing on your phone? Come on, man…

Like I said, I may be a bit old-fashioned, and I respect the hell out of women and their right to do as they please, but I still feel like a lady should be treated like a lady. There’s a way to do it without being patronizing. It’s called being a gentleman. Look it up.

But overall, I really think people could relearn some of the basic social niceties. Most of them only take a second, are not that big, and actually go a long way.


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57 responses to “Understanding”

  1. Something that’s definitely needed.

    Unfortunately, society is being trained to make kneejerk reactions and hate anything they don’t understand. That mindset has done more to kill manners than anything, I think.

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    1. Great observation. I would also posit that perhaps the 24/7 “always on” mentality is a contributing factor as well. Everyone is in such a damn hurry to get to the next task, answering a work call, etc., that they have no time or inclination to focus on anyone but themselves.

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      1. Very true, and it’s connected together to a degree. Even beyond the basic distrust and lack of communication, there’s a push to instill a desperation for basic survival or “winning” and having more than others, or one is somehow “less than”. Whatever is going on (conspiracy or something more rational), it’s pushing the average psyche backwards towards almost reptilian brain level thinking.

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      2. We are definitely caught up in the “whoever dies with the most toys wins” mentality very heavily these days. Survival of the fittest and all that.

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  2. True enough, and you’re right… Simple manners would be a damned good place to start. Showing manners forces on to see the other person as a human being.

    Oh, and for those other readers who haven’t realized this yet…

    He who dies with the most toys… is still dead. And can’t take them with them.

    Beyond that, I’ll shut up on this one. Do NOT want to sound like David Icke with conspiracies or that I have an axe to grind with anyone (not the case).

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    1. I can’t count how many times I have held a door for someone and they walk right by me like I didn’t exist. Still, I do it, because that’s how I was raised. I don’t know if that makes me smarter of dumber than everyone else.

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  3. I totally agree and it was the way I was brought up to say thank you, hold the door open etc..
    Rare moments I will see some one much younger than me with manners and so I think, oh there are some younger generations that have manners then. But rare few and since covid lockdowns, I have seen further changes and I bet you have too.

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    1. Yes, I think since Covid it’s changed some too as well. A year plus of living away from humanity did no one any favors.
      If my mother ever saw me let a door go in someone’s face of march right by without a thank you, she would cuff me upside the head.

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      1. I wouldn’t have got a cuff. But I certainly would been reminded very quickly with an angry tone regarding it.

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      2. My mother would do it to embarrass me for embarrassing her for acting that way. 😄

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      3. Mum has a backhand almost as strong as her forehand. 🤣

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      4. Sounds like your mum could play Gibbs in NCIS with the backhand. 😀

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      5. Oh, she’d make him look like an amateur. 😄

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    2. Lockdown ~ and 5G.

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  4. Renard Moreau Avatar
    Renard Moreau

    🙂 Kevin, I totally agree with you.

    Good manners went down the proverbial drain where the younger generation is concerned.

    And, yes, a lady should be treated as a lady.

    However, there are some women who would take offence if I man volunteered to open the door for her.

    Some so-called independent women are the ones who wear the pants in the relationship.

    They are the type who will insult their significant other if they pump gas for her at a gas station.

    Is modern feminism responsible for this?

    Who knows.

    In today’s society, the values are all skewed.

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    1. Renard, you raise some intriguing questions. And while I do understand that some women may not want help in certain situations, I still feel that a gentleman, or for that matter even just a considerate person, should offer nonetheless.
      Where I see a disconnect is when women will bemoan that their man doesn’t do anything to help them. They don’t help financially, around the house, with the kids, etc., and yet they continue to tolerate it. Perhaps if they didn’t tolerate this behavior, some of these modern “men” would get the hint and start pulling their weight.
      Now, if they do not want the help or are insulted by the attempt, that is certainly their prerogative.
      But, as a whole, it is clear that society in general has forgotten the fine art of consideration.
      Great points, and thank you. 🙂

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      1. Renard Moreau Avatar
        Renard Moreau

        🙂 You are welcome, Kevin.

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    2. I always feel like asking those women how they act toward someone who ISN’T trying to do them a favor!

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      1. Honestly? In my experience, much the same. I worked with more than a few women who would literally get pissed off if you tried to help them, and bitch and moan nonstop if you didn’t offer to help.
        I out that down more to a personality trait than anything gender related, because some guys can be just as bad about that.

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      2. Truly said! 👌👍✨

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  5. I agree! People really have lost their manners!

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    1. No doubt. Social graces be damned!

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  6. I believe that some people just like being dependent on their partner, maybe they like being catered to, but I agree that when basic courtesy is lacking (on both sides of the spectrum) it makes relationships totally one sided and stressful. Chivalry is a trait we must not lose, as men and women.

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    1. Agreed, Aboli. It does feel like people who think like this are in the minority these days, unfortunately. Hopefully, the pendulum swings the other way at some point!

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  7. Thoughtful post. I’m reminded of how people don’t even give you a wave when you let them pass in your car on the narrow street. They used to. I still do. I also hold doors for people because that’s how I was raised. I’ll go one step further with chivalry: my mother used to open the passenger side door for anyone – man, woman or child – before she got in herself. I don’t do that unless the person needs assistance. I’ve never been in a car with a man who has opened the door for me first. Period. But my mother used to. That’s how you know you were raised right, by learning these things.

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    1. I will admit that I don’t usually hold the car door as a rule, but I have done it from time to time. Usually, as you note, if someone needs an assist. Aside from that, though, I would say overall that I am very courteous, especially in times like these. lol

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      1. I do it every time. Even if the person doesn’t say thank you, I’ll do it at the next door. Sometimes there are two sets of doors. One time I was leaving Dunkin’ Donuts, and I held both sets of doors for a woman who wasn’t overly loaded with items, but she said to me, “Thank you so much for doing that. That is the best thing that has happened to me all week.” I will always remember that.

        It only takes the bare minimum these days to be courteous. It’s quite sad.

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      2. Indeed. And it’s even rarer to find someone who appreciates the gesture.

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  8. Beautifully expressed, Kevin.
    In today’s fast-paced world, a gentle reminder about the importance of basic social niceties is invaluable.
    Amidst digital communication and hectic schedules, a simple “thank you” or holding the door open can foster empathy and connection. Let’s embrace these small gestures to cultivate kindness and understanding in our communities.

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    1. Well said, Mr. Philo. That is why, despite feeling like I am swimming against the tide, I continue to engage in these small gestures. 🙏

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      1. You are the role model, Kevin.
        Sadly, people lack niceties and are devoid of civilization.

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      2. I try my best, Philo. Thank you. 🙏

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      3. And we are the beneficiaries!
        Thank you, Kevin.

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      4. My pleasure, Mr. Philo. Good morning to you. 🙏

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      5. Thank you, Kevin.
        Good night from India.

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  9. as Mr Philo says…. beautifully expressed, Kevin. 🤍
    Reminds us to be grateful too…to those that extend these courtesies and to those who taught us how to ….
    very much enjoyed, Chief 👌

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    1. Thank you, Lady Destiny. All we can do is try to fight the good fight. 🙏

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      1. well said 🙏

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  10. This resonates with me. As a wheelchair user, it’s really hard when someone doesn’t bother to hold a door open. Not every place has the button you press to open the doors.

    Not everyone understands wheelchair etiquette but I think some of this would be common sense.

    Anyway, I agree with you about manners being a concern. Thanks for reading my rant. LOL 😀

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    1. One would think it would be common sense in that situation, yes. Sadly, that is lacking these days.
      No worries. Feel free to rant away! 👍👍

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  11. Look it up ~ and look up to it. 👌

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  12. I appreciate old-fashioned manners, as well, Kevin. And kindness, respect, patience, understanding, equality, assistance, smiles. . .

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    1. It truly doesn’t take much for those small things, but one would think so these days, unfortunately.

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  13. I think I saw that leg dude yesterday! Did he have on green hightops and no socks?

    Beautifully written and 100% not old fashioned. Respect, dignity, and civility may just die if we give up!

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    1. More than likely. Did the look on his face scream “I’m an unemployed POS living off my girlfriend’s two jobs”?

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      1. Yes! As did her black eye!!

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  14. Too nice to read .master piece 💐

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  15. I agree with you. Some people feel saying Thank you or I am sorry to be awkward. They feel they are entitled to things that come their way. The younger generation find it difficult to do the right thing. They always feel things must go their way.

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  16. Marvellous Braimah Avatar
    Marvellous Braimah

    I definitely understand your point, and it’s so valid!
    I gotta ask, though, why do you keep using a gorilla in your pics? Is it for your brand or what?
    Love the concept, though.

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    1. I use the gorilla for humor, but at this point, it’s kind of become my thing, yes. It stems from an old joke many years ago.

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  17. True ❤️❤️

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  18. prettydixit Avatar
    prettydixit

    Love it 🙌

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    1. Thank you 🙏

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