Small Words, Big Results

Sometimes in this adventure called life we find ourselves looking for the one big solution that’s going to shake the world and solve all our, and hopefully everyone else’s, problems.

We search high and low for that grand speech or that monumental action. The proverbial magic bullet.

We know it doesn’t really exist, but that doesn’t stop the search. Perhaps it shouldn’t either. Maybe it’s good to stretch ourselves and attempt to exceed our grasp. We might not find that magic bullet, but we’ll probably find some pretty cool stuff along the way.

Since I’ve been out of work, I have had several conflicting thoughts and attitudes.

I feel an overall sense of relief, because looking back on it all, I was on a one-way trip in a very bad direction. The pace I was trying to sustain was totally unrealistic and the crash was going to come eventually. The longer it went, the worse I am sure that crash would have been.

But I also have those pangs of regret. Regret that I didn’t see what I was doing to myself and those around me sooner. Regret that I threw away 13 years of hard work over a stupid mistake. Regret that I will see my friends less because I truly miss them.

Overall, I see this as a great opportunity to grow professionally, but most importantly, personally. That said, human nature says at times we all get down on ourselves at least a bit.

I’d love to find that massive life-changing revelation that paves the remainder of my path with pots of gold, happiness and contentment, but the realist in me knows that true change requires time, effort and hard work.

Lately, I’ve had a few down moments, which is to be expected. But it’s the small words that I refer to in the title of this post that lifted me back up.

On Christmas I met the family for dinner at my aunt’s house. Everyone was there and it was nice to see them all. We exchanged cards/gifts and enjoyed just hanging out together.

When I got home, I opened the cards I had received from my family.

The one from my mother hit me the hardest.

I opened it and within was a substantial gift, but it was the few simple words she wrote that meant the absolute most to me. Even as I type this I am getting misty-eyed.

“Everything will be ok. You are a good man and I am so very proud of you.”

Folks, if there is a magic bullet in this world I think I found it.

Sometimes the big picture is so damn big that we can’t take it all in. We focus on some massive solution to help ourselves, our friends, families, etc., when maybe all that’s needed is a kind word.

Maybe our friend just needs to be reminded how awesome they are.

Maybe our coworker just needs to know that their efforts are appreciated.

Maybe a child just needs to know that their parents love them and are proud of them.

Never underestimate the power of a few small words. they could make all the difference to someone in your life when they need it most.

In this vast ocean we call life, sometimes it’s the small ripples that have the biggest impact.


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11 responses to “Small Words, Big Results”

  1. You’re so right, it’s not always the big things but oftentimes the small gestures that make that biggest impact. Your mum sounds very supportive. And I know being out of work isn’t always easy but I think it also means you’re making room in your life for better work opportunities.

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    1. Yes, she’s very supportive and it really lifted my spirits immensely.
      Being out of work sucks for the short term impact, but long term it will pay off. And there truly is a sense of relief being out of the situation I was in. It was quite tough.

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      1. That’s really nice.

        Yeah, if your work environment was toxic or draining you then it really is better to move on from that.

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      2. It was extremely draining. I loved working with my crew, but the politics, long hours and little agendas elsewhere in the building really took a toll.

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      3. Yeah, a lot of people complain about that. It’s tough working with other people and under people that don’t always understand the needs of their employees.

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      4. I made some mistakes, no doubt and I own that 100%, but there is a part of me that gets a little bitter because my peers and superiors didn’t really do much to step in and slow me down when I started going off the rails.
        But that’s water under the bridge and I’ve learned a lot about myself and people in the process, so it’s a win.
        Time to take those lessons, be a better person and move forward!

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      5. It’s tough when you need help and no one is ready to help. Especially your superiors as that’s their job to help employees. True, glad it helped you learn and grow even if it was a tough experience. All we can really do is keep going and bettering ourselves!

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      6. I’m trying to frame it all as a learning opportunity. I know I am flawed, but who isn’t?
        I’ve wasted far too much time in the past lamenting could have, should have. My take now is learn from it, forgive yourself and march on. I’m hoping somehow I can help others learn from my experience. Life’s too short to waste on missed chances and second guesses.

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      7. Yeah, I think we all make mistakes but if we learn from them then they’re not made in vain.
        Absolutely, you have to let go and just try to keep going forward. If you hold on to those mistakes it’ll eat you from the inside.

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      8. Indeed. It can be a vicious cycle if you don’t learn to let go. Nothing but an anchor that drags you deeper and can drown you if you let it. Been there, done that. No thank you!

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      9. Yes, exactly. You need to break free from the negative thoughts or it does turn into a cycle.

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